Positivity Booster #1

​​Do not worry at all about negative thoughts, and do not try to control them. 

All you have to do is begin to think good thoughts each day.
Plant as many good thoughts as you can in each day. 

As you begin to think good thoughts you will attract more and more good thoughts, and eventually the good thoughts will wipe out the negative thoughts altogether.☺

Spread the joys and happiness ☺

Sarver ☺

How to Handle Criticism

दूसरों की Criticism को कैसे अपने  goals को achieve करने में use करें।

अक्सर हम ये देखते है की अपने आस पास और ऑफिस वर्कप्लेस पर हमें कोई न कोई ऐसा वयक्ति मिल जाता है जो हमें किसी न किसी बात पर critisize कर देता है। फिर हम उसकी बात को लेकर dipressed feel करने लगते है या उस वयक्ति को मन में ही बुरा भला कहने लगते है। इस तरह हम उस वयक्ति के लिए negative feelings create करते जाते है जो अनजाने में खुद हमारे mind  में एक negative area create कर देती है जिससे जब भी हम उस person के बारे में सोचते है हमारा mind खुद negative feelings create करने लगता है और हम खुद उस negative दलदल में दबते चले जाते है।

ज़्यादातर देखा गया है की जब भी हमारे मन में ऐसे किसी person के बारे में ख्याल आये जिसने हमको कभी critisize किया हम irritation, anger, dipressed, frustating feelings को महसूस करते है।

क्या आप जानते है की ये सभी feelings, negative feelings है और जितना आप उस बात के बारे में सोचते जाते है आपके मन में उस person के लिए गालियां निकलनी शुरू हो जाती है। और जब भी आप किसी दूसरे person से उस आदमी के बारे में बात निकलते हो तो आपके मुह से सिर्फ बुरा ही निकलता है उसके लिए।

तो हमें ऐसा क्या करना चाहिए की हम criticism को अपने favour में use कर सकें ताकि हम negative feelings का शिकार न हो पाएं।

 What To Do When Someone Critisize (क्या करें जब कोई हमको critisize करे) :-

अब सवाल ये बनता है कि अब ऐसी condition में हम ऐसा क्या क्या करें कि हम positive boostup रहें।

जैसा कि में पहले ही अपने आर्टिकल्स में बता चुका हूँ कि हम दूसरों को बदल नही सकते बस खुदको बदल सकते है और अपने thoughts pattern को change करके हम दूसरों के द्वारा criticism को अपने goals को achieve करने में use कर सकते हैं।

सबसे पहले तो आप अपने mind में clear कर लें की हर जगह… हर office workplace पर कोई न कोई एक person ऐसा ज़रूर होता है जो कि दूसरों को बुरा या critisize करता है या कुछ ऐसी बात लोगो से बोलता होगा जो आपको या दुसरो को अच्छी नहीं लगती होगी और आप भी व दूसरे लोग ऐसे person से बचना चाहते होंगे। पर ये हमारी मजबूरी होती है कि बिना अपनी मर्ज़ी चाहे हमको उस person को झेलना पड़ता है।

Critisize करने वाले को कैसे Handle करें :-

ऐसे लोगो के लिए हम अपने mind में एक thought patttern बना सकते है कि जो भी वो बोल रहे है उसे ऐसे treat कर सकते है की जो भी वो बोल रहे है वो एक पागल आदमी बोल रहा है जैसे जब आप किसी mental hospital में गए और वहाँ कोई पागल उल्टा सीधा आपसे कुछ कहने लगे तो आप का नजरिया उस समय क्या होगा। क्या आप भी उस पागल से पागलों की तरह गुस्सा होने लगेंगे या अपने मन में ये feel करेंगे की इसने मुझे ऐसा क्यों कहा। उस condition में आपको ये मालूम है कि जो ये सामने वाला person है वो पागल है और पागलो की तरह ही बातें बोल रहा है। आप बस उस situation को जो भाई आप से कुछ ऐसी बात करता है और उसकी बात आपको बुरी लगती है आप अपने मन में उसे उसी पागल की तरह treet कर सकते है कि इसकी बात को क्यों अपने मन में बुरा feel करुँ।

Boss की डांट को कैसे अपने लिए इस्तमाल करें :-

दूसरा तरीका boss लोगो के लिए use कर सकते है जो की हमको किसी न किसी बात पर सुना देते है। अक्सर हमारे boss हमसे ऐसा कुछ कह देते है जो हमको अच्छा नहीं लगता और बाद में हम औने बॉस को बुरा भला कहते है। तो ऐसी situation में हम उनकी बातों को बस अपने goals को achieve करने में एक direction और boostup मानके आगे बढ़ सकते है। हम बुरा feel करके बस अपने आपको ही परेशां कर सकते है या फिर उसी बात को अपने फायदे के लिए use भी कर सकते है। हम ये मानके चल सकते है की हमारे boss ने हमको एक चिंगारी दी है जिसको हम burning desire मानके अपने goals को achieve करने में use करें या खुद अपने को जलने में ये हमेशा ही अपने हाथ में है। तो इस तरह अपने thoughts pattern को change करके हम दुसरो की criticism को अपने favour में use कर सकते है और positively responce कर सकते है। 

आशा करता हूँ ये जानकारी आपको फ़ायदा पहुचायेगी। अगर  ये पोस्ट आपको अच्छी लगी तो इसे दूसरे लोगो के साथ शेयर कीजिये।

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Sarver ☺

​Appreciate Yourself! Self Talk

​Appreciate Yourself! Self Talk ☺

Don’t forget to appreciate your OWN positive qualities and accomplishments. In addition to celebrating your big successes, acknowledge your small daily successes too. We all need acknowledgment, but the most important acknowledgment is that which we give ourselves.

It may not feel natural at first to focus on appreciating what you already have, but by faithfully practicing, you’ll begin to change your conditioning.

To kick-start your daily gratitude practice, take a few moments to write at least three things for which you’re grateful for. Even the smallest act of gratitude will have a positive impact on your life.

Like as ..

  •  I am grateful and thankful to Living wonderful life and enjoying the day.
  • I am thankful and greatful to my body which gives me the potential to do anytings what i want.
  • I am thankful and grateful for my skills of writings and speaking to someone which makes me valuable among others as well as in my point of view.
  • I am thankful and grateful for my vision to see the positivety around me.
  • I am thankful and grateful for my hearings powers which gives me the experience of sound and music of the nature.
  • I am thankful and grateful of Amezing mind which gives us power to think beyond the limit and shows the creative ideas.
  • I am thankful and grateful for the skin & sences which gives us the feelings of touch.
  • I am thankful and grateful for the invisible power which is hidden in us and don’t have the realization of its limit how much we can increase it.

We are thankful in every areas of life. Which God gives us.

I Hope thia gives you the positivety to look yourself in different views to appreciate yourself and make it habit to apply gratitude practice daily in your life. 

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Sarver☺

10 Ways to Become A Leader 

​Ten ways to be a leader.
Everyone tells us to be a leader, but they never tell us how. 
These are 10 ways which explain by Dale Carnegie which transfrom someone life and makes you leader.


 1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation. If you start your meeting with full of appreciatation and honest intention the person whom we intrect must be create a value towards you.

2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. Don’t be pinpoint anyone directly show them there value and then by example show them how can they improve it.

3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. Show your own example when you commit mistake and how you improved it and guide other how they can also improve themselves.

4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. Asking the questions is the best way to know the openion how other person can improve and gives his best and what the best solution he suggest let them work accordingly.


5. Let the other person save face. Make it comfortable feel other person whom you intrect. Realize him that he is safe with you his words spoken to you is not going to be spread and it always keep secret with you.

6
. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be a person of praise and find the opportunity to true praise don’t be flatter and if any person whom you intrect is your junior in work show your appriciation for a little work done by him.

7
. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. Every person have a reputation in his own don’t use such kind of words which make him realise degrading in your views.

8
. Use encouragement. Keep encourage other to uplifting to his work don’t think about degrading any person.

9
. Make the fault easy to correct. Whats going wrong make it correct in a way that other person don’t feel a anti feeling for you. It sould be like showing an example of yours that when you makde such type of mistake and how you correct it.

 10. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. Whatever you do or suggest to do things to others it should be in a polite way and the person whome you saying to doing such task he feels good about them by your words. 

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These are the suggested point by Dale Carnegie which he give in his book How to Influence People.

I hope these ways improves your relation and makes your life easy and peaceful.

Thanks for reading my blog.

Sarver☺

Are you 100 Percent Happy☺

Happiness☺. Happiness.. ☺☺Happiness…☺☺☺

All knows what is happiness and eveyone wants happiness. But have you ever count your Happiness. What is the percentage of happiness in your life. Do you give 100 out of 100 marks in your happiness which you feel around the day, week, month and your whole year.

If you feel only 1% percent unhappiness then you are not 100 percent happy. Some time you say i am ok at this time its means you are not 100 percent feel happy. To enjoying full happiness you have to focus youself to get 100 percent happiness. 

What to do to get 100 percent Happiness :

# Close your eyes and Repeat in your mind “I am 100 percent Happy from bottom of my heart”.. “I am Feeling Happy☺”.. “I am the Happiest person on this earth”…repeat repeat repeat until you strat to feel from within 100 percent happiness and smile☺. 

# Do the things which makes you feel happy.

# Feel and memories those feelings which gives you full of happiness at that time. 

# Do the things what you love to do and you dont feel tiredness. 

# Smile and visualize closing your eyes untill you feel the feelings full of happiness.

#Make a list of the things which makes you happy and do it at the time when you missing 1 percent of your happiness. 

May the Joy and Happiness with You☺

Sarver☺

Answer these 7 Questions and know Yourself Better

Generally we answer so many question which comes in our life. Some are useful while some are unnecessary wasting our time. 

Here are few 7 question. If you answer them you will know yourself better and live your life more clarity.

Sit in silence and write answer (with peper pen) every question peacefully…

Q.1 What do you like about your life as it is today?

Q.2 What don’t you like about your life as it is today?

Q.3 Do you feel trapped by any of the things that you dont like about your life today?

Q.4 If you went to the doctor next week and he told you that you were dying and had one year to live, what would you do for the next year?

Q.5 If you inherited 10 Billion, what would you do with the rest of your life and what would you do with the money?

Q.6 What is holding you back from the life you really want?

Q.7 If you could change thee things about your life, what would they be?

Hope this questionire will help you to know yourself and makes your life better.

Spread the Peace, Joy and Happiness ☺

Sarver☺